Shoes and clutch

We finally found shoes which our daughter likes and even a clutch to go with them. Now she is thinking of getting her ears pierced. In the meantime I am starting to shop online looking for pearl, clip on, earrings.

White high heels and a white purse

The Shoes and Clutch

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A party of five...turned into nine for D&D later.

A party of five…turned into nine for D&D later.

Had Lynn lived this would have been THE year for her. Our daughter just turned seventeen and she will be graduating from high school in two months time. We always had a different approach to what are referred to as special occasions. For the most part I ignore them. One day is much like the next in my view and rolling over another year on the clock or graduating high school are things which seem unremarkable to me. Lynn lived for making things remarkable.

What is remarkable to me is that life without Lynn which was desolate for a while has managed to regain its colour and vibrancy. Donna has much to do with that, but so too does watching our daughter grow from a quiet girl to a young woman with a passion for social justice, equality and nature. It would be nice to think that as much as our son’s passion for theatre and acting comes from Lynn our daughter’s passions come from me. It could be that genetics has something to do with it. I’m not certain that there can be any other explanation for these things. My days of political passion are long behind me buried by just keeping it all together. But it is pretty to think that perhaps there is something of us which is bone deep that we pass along to our children.

Milestones are what we choose they are. I don’t remember any of my son’s birthdays though I never missed one of them. I do remember changing his diaper, the first time he shaved, how he used to pop his collar in grade eight and a myriad of other moments which carry significance for me. Our daughter once chased a flock of seagulls down a football field, fed cheese to ants to see if they would eat it, wandered off at will when she was little and has always seemed to enjoy her own company as much as that of her friends. We remember how people are every day much more than any contrived moment can endure.

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TD Canada Trust – the Keystone Cops weren’t this funny.

I went to the TD Canada Trust today to close out my last two accounts. The chequing account I closed without incident. The RRSP savings account was another matter. This account was supposed to be transferred with my RRSPs to RBC but TD refused to make the transfer because they charge $135.00 to transfer an account to another bank. That’s right: $135.00. So I went in to close the account in person. I figured if I took the $29.00 out I’d have to pay the 33% withholding tax and have enough left over for lunch. As Robert Burns once observed “The best-laid schemes o’ mice an’ men Gang aft agley”.

It turns out that I had to take an appointment to close the account. All well and good. The caveat to that is that TD Canada Trust will levy a $50.00 fee for closing the account. There’s a reason the TD Canada Trust saw first quarter profits of $2.06 billion. I’m not sure if I’m resentful or to have a good laugh at how effectively they relieve me of my money.

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The gown arrived

Here is the actual gown modeled by our daughter. It is from, very inexpensive, very quick delivery, there are some minor defects which will have to be fixed but we’ll take care of that when we find a seamstress, but first: the shoes!

Grad Gown

Grad Gown

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Parting Shot

My RRSPs and TFSA were transferred from TD to RBC bringing my 30 year relationship with TD almost to a close. I just have to wait for a few more days to make certain some automatic payments go through RBC and the task will be completed.

There was a parting shot, three actually. The TD bank sent a new Green Card to Lynn even though they were informed of her demise over three years ago. Then they charged $135.00 per account to allow the transfer of RRSPs and TFSA to the Royal.

I shouldn’t have been surprised they are the TD after all and profits are well before service. Though servicing their clients does seem to be what they do best. I feel I’ve been throughly serviced. The upside of course is that I have years to tell the stories and get them down on paper.

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The new short story – Crank Case

Here’s the beginning of a new story I’m working on. I’ve written three children’s stories as well but those are all out for consideration at the moment. So here is a sample of the new one.

“What if Mama finds out we’re here?” The boy, squinted in the bright sunlight as he looked up at his father while they mounted the stairs.

“Mijo she knows already. A woman who listens to her heart always knows what her man is doing. It is a magic they have when they have pure hearts like your mother,” his smile was as warm as the sunlight. He gestured to the bench in the third row. “This is the best place to watch from.”

The boy went into the row and sat down. “Mama doesn’t like the toros she calls it murder.”

The man’s eyes soften “It is, Mijo, it is. But I love it.”

“Why?” The boy asked.

The man shook his head, “In truth I don’t know, but I always feel more alive after and that is a fine thing to feel.” The boy looked confused and the man gestured him to move farther along the bench.

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The Gown

It’s currently out of stock at 1861 but this is the gown our daughter has chosen for prom. I think we might need to go in to one of their stores and order it now so when it does come in she will get it.

Back of gown

Back of gown

Front of gown

Front of gown

It’s a very pretty dress and not very expensive. The colour also suit her.

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Yesterday saw the end of course work on Part 4B2. All that is left now is the 4B2 final then the 4B overall final. After that, steam time.

After more than a little bit of panic on the travel front Donna got things sorted with the help of an hour and a half on the phone, more than a little patience and of course her credit card. A one day change turned out to be expensive both in terms of cost to move the flight one day and a day’s lost wages – almost identical amounts as it turns out.

It’s all placid now. Things move forward. Turmoil then calm. What’s inescapable though is the residual feelings that turmoil leaves in its wake.

We are, it seems, life companions Turmoil and me. You’d think by now I would see him as an old friend instead of the bully I change my routes to avoid but who always seems to figure out which path I am taking.

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NAIT knows how

NAIT – Northern Alberta Institute of Technology – you would think that an organization with the word ‘technology’ in the name would put the correct date for a course ending on their website. Whoops. Today, after an email inquiry as to why there were so many hours of class time scheduled, NAIT let me know that the actual end date on the website was wrong. The date has been changed. It’s a day longer than posted.

As for the hours, that’s not correct either. NAIT just hasn’t sorted out which days we are actually going to be in class yet.

It’s probable that somewhere in all the legalese which accompanies any business these days they bear no legal responsibility for the error.

It’s been ten months since the course was posted but the date is only being corrected a month before the course starts. That says something about the regard in which the students are held. It seems improbable that I am the only student who took a leave of absence from work and arranged to travel to do the steam lab. Even if it is only me who made those specific types of arrangements others may have scheduled work starts, child care or any of a host of other things for the day which is now the date of the final exam.

The dismissive statement “there is an error on the end date on the web that is in the process of being corrected” disregards the time and effort we put into the course work and altering our lives and the lives of our families to attend the lab.

Life is full of giggles.

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TD Canada Trust Can’t Stop Screwing Up

On Friday I received a new bank card, with the card came the explicit instructions to cut up my old card and use only the new one. I didn’t think much of it, it happens periodically. When I tried to use the card today it did not work. I was at the pharmacy near the bank so I walked on over and stood in line to see a teller.

It turns out the card was not for me, though it had been sent to my name, it was for Lynn. Three and a half years after having been given a copy of the Act of Death they still don’t seem to believe it. The teller was helpful in cancelling the card, issuing me a new one for my own use and closing one more TD account.

All that is left at the TD now is one chequing account and an RRSP savings account. By the middle of next week they too will be closed and, with luck, my dealings with the TD Bank will be at an end.

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